Trust

[infamous]

i recently had a fight with one of my friends....and i try to make her happy and do things the way she wants...i'm sorta scared that if i do something she doesn't like..this whole fight is gonna start over again.

how do i regain her trust and at the same time still do thingz that i wanna do...i'm not sure if u understand but some help would be great

[KingJJP]

the only way is to tell her the truth

[Jessie]

i dont think i understand...did you guys fight becasue you did something she didnt want you to or something? lol i dont understand!!!

[InspireMe]

I think you should just do the things you want, as long as they don't directly hurt her. I've recently had my own problem with a friend of mine who has been my friend since we were 4, and I finally realized after all the years of fighting her and the past year of not trusting her that she doesn't trust me, therefore I cannot trust her ever again. I think that if I talked about it with her, if she felt the same, we might be able to solve the problem, but I have lost interest in being her friend. What I'm trying to say is that maybe if you just talk to her about it, you could work it out.

I don't know if that helps at all, but it can't hurt to try.

[infamous]

i've already talked with her about the problem.....but now i feel like i have to stop myself.....for example she accused me of ignoring her which i never do........and then she doesn't like that i listen to music because she wants me to get involved in the conversations.....i mean if i'm listening to music i'm listening to music...i have the right to do that. now if i listen to music again how do i know she's not thinking the same thing, why do i have to limit myself to her standards....am i making more sense now lol

[InspireMe]

Yeah, but you should talk to her about THAT because that's the problem you're facing now. :P Well, I think you shouldn't change for someone because they don't think you're perfect. Maybe there's something else you can do to show her you're not ignoring her, but you don't have to change and be annoyed for yourself.

[infamous]

thanks that helped.....i guess i'll talk to her about it and see what she says

[InspireMe]

I'm glad I could help. :) Good luck, and tell us if it works out!

[infamous]

sure...i'll let you guys know

[Artemis]

Soooo sorry Chris lol....I didn't even know there was a forum in here besides the Sanctuary. I've been in your situation before. And let me tell you, it's no picinic. Don't try and change yourself to suit your friend's needs. The mistake that I made was not talking to my friend about what was bothering me, and I've lost her forever. So, definitly tell her what you're thinking, even if you're afraid too. Because in the end, it may make you're friendship ten times as stronger as it was before. This advice is late, and I really do hope that it helps you in some way! Gotta jet now, dad's coming up the stairs!

[infamous]

thanks meg.....yea it helped.......i've never really been able to tlak to my friends...i was always shy hopefully i'll get the courage to this time

[Crystal]

If she doesn't like the way that you do things, then she's not a real friend. Friends accept each other and never say that something is uncool. You shouldn't change yourself, like Meg said. You are who you are, and you're completely awesome! :) If she doesn't like that, then that's totally her problem. Don't worry about it, and I hope that things work out for you two!

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

yea and if not well than it's her lose.
friends stay with oyu threw thick and thin they don't care wether your bi gay or lesbian, they accept you for you and nothing else. sure they may say something or make fun of something that you did do or say but that's different. i have been in your situation and with you being in that age, this is the time you set your real friends from your friends. even your best friend and or childhood friend may become the person you hate or do not like or talk to again. you will work things out the way you want them to do not let other controll your life and the way you live. if you do let others tell you what to do then you will become a sheep in the herd. there are too many of them out there today and there doens't need to be any more. if she doesn't like the things you do then she will have to put up with it or not be your friend anymore. there is no other option really there's not. you have only 2 choices and the problem is choice. but you already kno what choice you are goin to pick. (sorry had a moment of matrix vision in my head :lol: )

[infamous]

thanks for the advice i completely agree withh you....i haven't been able to talk to her about it yet but i will as soon as i can

[Death in a Bottle]

I'll give you advice, but it'll cost you.

[infamous]

what do u mean it'll cost me.....?

[Crystal]

lmao Chris....you crack me up sometimes!

Is the situation any better now?

[Heather Lovelace]

chris???????????????????????????

[infamous]

yea itz better now we don't really talk as much as last year so i don't see any reason why she should be mad at me...but everythings fine now

[Da Boggsta]

Originally posted by *unwanted_sk8rgurl*@Oct 20 2003, 05:44 AM
chris???????????????????????????
yes my darling :) *snoggles*

and mrsmattbran, im glad things are sorted now, saves me trying my 2 pence worth :P