"friends"

[Artemis]

I'm basically having the same problem as Sydney is, but it's different. I hang out with a group of friends every day. Claudia, Christa, Christina M., Jessica, Robin, Meghan, and Kristen. For the past two years, we've all been so close. Well, this year, I find that they're really starting to annoy me, and that I don't think they like me. Claudia, Christa, Christina and Robin, are all on the cross-country team. They complain about running 24/7, yet they're all on the team. I'm tired of hearing about it. If they don't like it, quit it. But anyways, whenever we're around each other, I feel out of place, like I'm not wanted.

And Jessica is so wrapped up in her horse shows, and that's all she talks about. I feel so lost and confused. We hardly ever hang out on the weekends anymore, and I hate that. I used to have one best best friend. Her name was Danielle. We would spend the night at each other's houses every single day during the summer. We knew each other's families and told each other everything. This was in grade 7. Soon grade 8 came, and we split apart. Now she's in my algebra class this year, and it brings back memories.

I keep wanting to write her a poem and secretly slip it in her bookbag, but I always lose the courage. She's always got boys after her, and she's got a better figure then I do, and that makes me lose my courage, because I'm not like her. I don't know if you see my point in this babbling at all, but I just needed to talk about it. My group of friends also are so oblivious to life. They don't know what pain is. They've never really experianced rock bottom, or pain. I'm sure of it. I want them to know about it, because then we would have so much more to talk about...but they don't...So I'm stuck. Sorry...It doesn't really matter anymore.

[infamous]

yea it does matter....it sucksthis has to happen to u..out of all ppl you..you don'y deserve it and yes its hard to just pretend like its nothing.but try to look past it and say "i don't really need then" cause in reality all they ever do now is bring you down..i understand u can't forget about it but try....either talk to them,. make them know the way ur feeling..it might help them realize a few things..

i definately think u should consider giving danielle the letter, don't make the fact of her having guys and a "better futur" than you bring you down cuz no one knows what lies ahead

hoped i helped in some ways and i hope things get better

[Crystal]

Yeah I agree with Chris. Give Danielle the letter, I'm sure she would appreciate it. You say you've known your friends for two years, well time changes people so much. I am nothing like the girl I was even last year.

[sk8andRockoN]

I agree.You should definitly give Danielle a letter,or even talk to her in person.And these friends you hang out with now...maybe you should stop hanging out with them.It seems to me like they're some lousy friends.You need a friend who will support you,talk to you,help you when you're in pain.

I hope that helps,and I hope everything shapes up.

[KiD]

It is unbelievably hard to find new friends and be accepted, but if you really want to be friends with them, they should be nice, and if you are accepted after a few tries, they will become your best friends.......thats only really useful if you decide to leave your group, but meh.

[Artemis]

Thanks for the advice guys

[Crystal]

That's one of the reasons why I don't hang out with that many girls. Honestly, all of the people I talk to here on AS are the only girls that I've been close with, other than my friend Maria. I find all of the girls that I know really complicated. Guys are simple.

Meg - in your post, you said that a bunch of your friends are on the track team but complain about running. I think that it's a rule among some teenage girls that they have to complain, no matter what they're doing. It just always seems that way. In grade nine I had to go camping with my school for a week, and you should have heard the way people complained. I know that it's a pain...if they hate it so much they should quit, I agree with you. Maybe you could tell them that.

[gone_country]

Meg i understand completley how you feel. i moved like 6 monthes ago, so i only really started to have friends again at the beginning of this school year, and we don't ever talk about anything serious, or important, i swear all of our conversations are about boys or how we look. and i had the same thing happen to me like a year ago that happened with you and danielle. we were inseperable. it's a whole big story about how we stopped being friends that involves a guy and drugs and shit, but i don't want to get into it. i havn't sopen to her in a really long time, we have a utual friend in common and whenever i hear him speak her name is still hurts me. and i would love to have closure with what happened but i know i'll never get it, and giving danielle the poem and letting her know how you feel might help you get yours. and i would suggest that you talk to your other friends about how you feel...people arn't always as they seem. i know i probabley didn't help but i tried, i want you to feel better

[laura]

you should give danielle the letter meg so that you have someone you can talk to again, my group of friends are kinda like that too, they think they are all tough yet they have not experienced pain in the slightest, they only know one side of me and its really bugging me, but you should definately give danielle this letter otherwise you'll only regret it

[Heather Lovelace]

I keep wanting to write her a poem and secretly slip it in her bookbag, but I always lose the courage.

aaaw, ya'know, i think thats really sweet. and i think, if you really want to (which i think you should) then you should. and once you've done it - you'll feel much much better. FIND THAT COURAGE! :)

She's always got boys after her, and she's got a better figure then I do, and that makes me lose my courage, because I'm not like her.

Hey... of couse your not like her - but it doesnt mean to say your not BETTER than her. Everyones different and im sure boi's like you too - you probably just dont realise it! what aboot personality??? she might be good looking. but what do guys think aboot her personality??? boi's who JUST go for looks are very very shallow. and theres a name for guys like them <_<

... you dont wanna be liked / fancied / loved for the way you look - you wanna be liked / fancied / loved for who you are too!

just be yourself and dont worry aboot what she looks like.

as goes for your friends. i suggest you have a good long convasation with them and tell them how you feel.

it sounds like you still wanna be friends with your ex bestfriend, so as i said - find that courage! and drop in that sweet lil poem. i think that could work alot! and it sure will make her happy :)

[Artemis]

Awwww thanks! lol...yes...Since the beginning of this year, I have been wanting to slip it into her backpack lol. You guys are right. I'll put it in there on Monday! And you're right Unwanted, I should talk to my other friends. You guys have made me feel better! Thanks!

[Heather Lovelace]

aaaaw *huggles* ^_^ good. im glad your gonna slip in that poem! i think thats such a good idea :) tell us how it goes :) aaaw... bless

[avrilrocks007]

hey well my advice, i think that you should write her a note, maybe not a poem cuz that mite freak her out a little bit maybe not but u never know lol and u know what she'll probobly write u a note back and unever u know u guys can end up friends again cuz that one note!
btw i agree with you, you should really talk to ur friends about everything going on, and theyll proobly totaly understand!

[**Allison~]

definitely give her the letter. itll show ya m8 how u feel nd that ure upset.

[Da Boggsta]

This is a classic case of "growing up" sorry if that sounded childish :)

basically, you will find that certain friends that were like ur best mates, change. You yourself change, as you become older, you get wiser. Like with me, i started going out with my brother when i was 14, he's 6 yrs older than me, so when i saw my friends i didnt wanna be part of their shit anymore!! They just didnt grow up as i did, and we moved further appart! I learned to make new friends and get on in life, and live! not takin part in their shit was best for me, they irritated the shit out of me, just like you when ur friends are goin on about something completly pointless like horses or cross country!! Times are changing babe, and you gotta move with them!!

Danielle, dont write something and slip i to her anonymously! Like i said ^ ppl change, she might think that your completly mad!! Confront her and start talkin!! Then write her the poem and hand it to her in person!!

Hope that helps, remember chin up and your true friends will stay by your side :)

[**Allison~]

actually ignore everything ive said!!!!

da boggsta's advice was a lot better!!

[AvrilandEvan22]

I agree, you should give Danielle the letter if you haven't already. If you still want to be her friend, than give it to her. Does she still respect you? My best friend and I sort of had the same problem, except we weren't completely split. We were just growing apart so I wrote her a letter and we sorted everything out.
As for your other friends, ask yourself, do I still want to be their friend? And you decide if you still really respect them. True, it does take a long time to be accepted by a new group of friends. There is a new girl in my grade who is just being accepted by me and my friends. Brittany, another new girl, isn't being accepted because of her attitude, she goes way too far. But even so, if you know you need a change, don't be their friend. Your a nice person Meg, and you deserve better!!! Be yourself, and the group of friends that is right for you will accept you!