Guy Trouble... =/

[InspireMe]

This guy asked me out last year, and I told him I just wanted to be friends... However, I don't really consider him a friend so much as a friendly acquaintance or maybe "old friends", but I have totally changed and don't feel like I know him at all anymore... We haven't been friends since he moved away in 5th grade. He came back a year ago. Anyway, I thought he'd gotten over me a long time ago after he asked me out, but yesterday his friend gave me this letter:

Blah, blah, blah... "I am writing to you to present a request. You see, our dear friend Brian is about to the snapping point in depression. I'm not necessarily saying it's your fault, but he's depressed over you. As you may already know, Brian is in love with you, not like, love (even though adults are always saying "You stupid kids don't know what love is"), which is the reason he's depressed. He thinks you're either mad at him, or you just flat-out hate his guts. He's also mad at himself. He thinks about you 24/7 (not exaggerating) but he either can't gather the courage to talk to you or if he can he acts like an idiot or he can't keep up the conversation. Now to get to the point, my request is that you just sit and talk to him. Kind of help him out if he starts tripping up, okee dokey? If I were saying all this to you verbally, I would be begging you on my knee."

Now I hadn't really talked to Brian all year, but he has been saying "hey" to me a lot lately... and I didn't realize that by merely replying with "hey", I was giving him the impression that I hate him. Well, I don't hate him, but I don't want to hang out with him because he is one of those unintelligent game freaks with a lot of imagination and not much else. We used to be friends and talked about nothing but Pokémon in 5th grade. :P When he came back to my school, I noticed he hadn't much changed with his games obsession.

My question is: do you have any ideas of what I should say to him to cheer him up? I don't want it to become my role because I hardly even have time to hang out with my friends, but I don't want someone being depressed over me. His friend is setting up a meeting with us Friday morning, so I need feedback ASAP!

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

uhm well there's nothing wrong with games!! :P

but yea he's mistaken over with lust. you should talk to him and tell him that you don't hate him.

he is too shy to say anything it seems like it. but my thinking cap has run off somewhere i must go find it <_< and i will get back to you asap as well.

[punkin_monkey]

You need to tell him how you feel. People fall in love, people fall out of love. If you don't get together it will pass. I don't think he will spend his entire life dwelling on you. ( i dont mean that to be offensive) i just think that sooner or later he will move on. Just don't beat around the point. Tell him straight out how you feel.

[narrator]

I'd suggest hanging out with less bi-polar people. Other than that, to cheer him up, I don't have any suggestions because I don't think anything you say will just make him pms more. Try to let him down gently but I'm cynical about the outcome. If that doesn't work tell him that you like him and all but you can't deal with all the video games, LOTR DVDs, and anime cartoons, and I think everyone knows which he would choose. Yeah, that was a long pointless rambling but I know someone like that who's intensely emotional but is very shy, it's not easy to deal with, good luck.

[Crystal]

Okay...I find it way unfair that his friend is blaming his depression on you. That's way too big of a burden for you to carry. I don't really know what you should do...It seems like this guy really likes you, and if you're polite to him, he might think you like him too...which it seems like you don't. And it doesn't sound like you want to be friends again, either. His friend can't force you to talk to him.

[PunkyMalone]

maybe if you did talk to him, you'd find out that chances are you're not the reason, or not the WHOLE reason, he's depressed. that in itself would be a weight off your shoulders. :P

but whatever your approach, make it clear from the start that you're not interested in him in a romantic way.

[avrilrocks007]

wow.....well i think tht u should talk to him about the whle situation b4 he doesent something bad! good luck :)

[InspireMe]

Thanks for your feedback, everyone! The guy who gave me this letter keeps telling me I am such a great person since I agreed to meet with Brian... He told me to just say something to cheer him up, but I don't think I can do that... Then he might try to start hanging out with me all the time. I will try to gather the courage to just tell him how I feel and then hope he gets over it. I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow!

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

ok great good luck hope all goes well :)

[Da Boggsta]

you know what, im gonna record my voice shouting ARRRGGH! and you lot need to play it very loudly to get the effect!!

You really do wanna make me scream at times!! Seriously 14 yr olds dont get too depressed over the opposite sex, its not called depression, its called hormones! next he'll probably tell ya he's gonna kill himself if u dont go out with him! This again is a ploy!

You, yourself need to chill luella! again 14 yr olds play computer games religiously, thats what u do when ur that age! why is that a problem?? because he isnt as intellectually challanged as you?? bollocks! if ur after someone that is, ur gonna end up with a man who's in his 40's!! ur the bloody type!

Girl, cut the crap! live your bloody life AS a 14 yr old girl!

btw, his affection towards you is NOT a problem, so you deal with it!

[InspireMe]

Oh, go to hell, Chris. Stop telling me to act like a normal 14-year-old. It'll never happen.

I bet it IS just hormones, but at least I can tell him what I think. But why would it be a ploy? He probably doesn't know anything about it... Then again, I don't really know. I will be talking to him in an hour.

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

well ploy is not the correct term.. cuz they don't kno their doing it when they are. :)

[narrator]

Originally posted by Da Boggsta@Dec 12 2003, 08:08 AM
you know what, im gonna record my voice shouting ARRRGGH! and you lot need to play it very loudly to get the effect!!

You really do wanna make me scream at times!! Seriously 14 yr olds dont get too depressed over the opposite sex, its not called depression, its called hormones! next he'll probably tell ya he's gonna kill himself if u dont go out with him! This again is a ploy!

You, yourself need to chill luella! again 14 yr olds play computer games religiously, thats what u do when ur that age! why is that a problem?? because he isnt as intellectually challanged as you?? bollocks! if ur after someone that is, ur gonna end up with a man who's in his 40's!! ur the bloody type!

Girl, cut the crap! live your bloody life AS a 14 yr old girl!

btw, his affection towards you is NOT a problem, so you deal with it!
A little tactless but...yeah.

[InspireMe]

I talked to him this morning. I didn't really talk to him about the situation (except I told him I wasn't mad at him). I asked him how he was doing, and he said he was okay but then that he wasn't really okay to be honest. He asked why, and I hesitated, so he changed the subject. His friend told me during lunch that I cheered him up, and he is feeling a lot better. I hope that that's enough, but I'll have to see...

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

no that is not enough! :angry: you should have told him now he'll be infatuated with you. :P now he kno's your not mad at him he won't be depressed but you might find him hanging round more often and wanting to do stuff with you. ... to .. start. :P

[InspireMe]

LOL... You're probably right! **sigh** Maybe I'll just hide from him. :D

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

no hiding is not the answer either! :P

[InspireMe]

Too late to hide now. I got myself into some shit today. :(

[narrator]

kick him right in the balls.

[funk*o09]

You shouldve told him!! :P Haha, but nothing to do with it now, for it is already done. When you get to speak to him again, just tell him what you really want to happen and stuff, but not in a way that would make him depressed over you again :P Or better yet, tell him you appreciate all the LOVE (is it really love?) that he's giving, and just tell him you love em too, but not in a love-love way,, if you don't get straight with him, he might jump to diff conclusions and you know what will happen :P I twould be okay :P

[Da Boggsta]

Originally posted by InspireMe@Dec 13 2003, 12:49 AM
LOL... You're probably right! **sigh** Maybe I'll just hide from him. :D
finally your acting your age <_<

[InspireMe]

I don't think so, Chris. I'm not hiding from him. You actually believed me when I said that?

Well, I decided it wouldn't be so bad to talk to him sometimes. I did something really stupid yesterday, which I refuse to detail because of people like Chris (I know it was stupid and don't need you re-informing me), but I cleared it up today.

He asked me to go see Return of the King with him this week, and I agreed but told him not as a "date"... He said he just wants to take me anyway. The main reason I'm going is because I have no other way of seeing that movie which I want to see. :D But I would have agreed to any decent movie because I just need to get out this house once in a semester!

[Da Boggsta]

^ in that case dont let him pay for anything, cos then ur just using him <_<

[InspireMe]

Why are you telling me this? I was going to pay for it myself anyway. I don't let people spend money on me. Will you just shut up, Chris? You don't even try to help me. f*cking drunkard.

[PunkyMalone]

I don't think he meant any harm. He was just pointing out -- because you never expressed that you would pay for everything -- that it would be unfair of you to let him pay if you're just going as friends.

[InspireMe]

Well, everytime he posts pointlessly, he adds that lovely "dry" emoticon to express his undying skepticism, even though I have efficiently defended what he thinks are my faults. He just keeps coming back to find something wrong every time and complain about it. The only person who has met this level of antagonism towards me is my mom, an insane woman.

You are right, though, obviously... But it's not just the one post that annoys me.

[narrator]

I say we put Chris and InspireMe in a cage match to the death!


tickets on sale for $5, the fight will be held in my basement.

[Da Boggsta]

Originally posted by PunkyMalone@Dec 17 2003, 07:23 PM
I don't think he meant any harm. He was just pointing out -- because you never expressed that you would pay for everything -- that it would be unfair of you to let him pay if you're just going as friends.
Thank you :D


And narrator i could not be held responcible for what i would do :o

[InspireMe]

That's disgusting. He'd probably rape me. :P

Today, I told Brian that I would pay for my ticket, and he said it was just him, that he didn't want a girl to pay. I started to tell him that I didn't think guys should pay for everything, but he sounded angry when he told me that money means nothing to him because he has plenty of it... He might have just meant to come off as decisive and not angry, but I didn't want any trouble, so I just agreed and thanked him.

[IwAnTuAnDuWaNtMe2]

yea well he wants to make it a "date" so being doing this he can claim it as a date since he paid for you to go along. so forth whatever blah blah i'm confusing someone.... like myself.. :blink:

[Rinoa]

Not always is paying for someone else a date! You can also wanna buy the other one the ticket because you like to

[InspireMe]

Most people tell me that him paying makes it more like a date... I'm comforted by the fact that his friend is coming, too. :D