My Friend

[gwen-rox]

I really don't know what to do about one of my friend and im really worried about him. he broke up with his gf a little while ago and i think that is really what started it. now it had just gotten worse, he doesn't eat every much, he is depressed and wants to kill him self and today he told me he cut his arm accouple of times. i really can't do much because we live very far away from each other. i'm just really worried about him and i just feel like i cant handle all
of this anymore. he promised me that he wouldn't kill himself, but i don't know if he will keep it. i really can't help him because im in the same possision as him. i really don't know what to do could some one please help me it would be greatly appreciated.

[narrator]

There's nothing you can do. Just be a friend, give support.

[Da Boggsta]

yes, there is not alot that you can do, living far appart is a shame, but you must remember to listen to him and just be there for him. :)

im sorry but there is not much i can help you with on this, but i gotta say that you are doing the right thing by talking to others about it, u dont want to bottle both your own and your friends problems too :)

[Lsot~Heart]

oh ive delt with a few sucides in my life .. my life is as Chaotic as a concert .. it'll blow over eventually .. but dont count on it happening mopping around .. all i can say is .. get ya freind to remember (and your self) how it can be to live having some fun .. listen to so good music .. NO BEER BEER IS A DEPRESSIANT AS MY SIGGY SuGGESTS! (chocolate is good) and jsut talk the world over ... talk ... watch TV ,,, hang out. but these are thigns u don't do.
Don't be alone, aloneness sucks!
Don't be a stranger .. talk to ppl u stop talking too, its always a good thing.
and do jsut have fun, being a teen (which im assuming you are) shit happens .. but hey .. where all pulling in there with you (all right im a loser but hey)

btw. im not just sayin random things, i use to help with the eatting disorder thing at my school (my school newspaper editor was ahead of it) as well ive delt with alot of attemped sucides and one of my friends actually did last year. but hey, we didn't get over it, but we did overcome it.

if u dont read the above read this.
Just Hang in there, there's always hope.

[gwen-rox]

thanks guys :)

i just really hope he gets better

[Rikku]

Like so many have said already; best you can do is be there for him. Listen to him, and be open to anything he says. I've been down that road before, I can't say that I was the reason he didn't kill himself, but it helped. If he talks to you so much, it's because he cares for you, and he want you to care for him. Let him know he's still needed and wanted, and it can help make him feel so much better.

Break ups are harsh and cruel. But if you ever need to talk, you can always come back to the people on these boards, we'll hear ya out. It's a great way to keep sane! *big hugs*

[Crystal]

I guess you should just let him know that if he wants to talk, you're there for him.

[jess007]

i kno EXACTLY how that feels! like seriously, my best m8 was doin drugs/smking/drinkin..and it was all getting too much, she had to go to hospital a few times, and she was gettin wasted like everynite! stuff got realli bad..and i only realli found out about it..wen it got seriously bad! i cidnt do anything..i felt so helppless cuz she lived so far away and the last time i saw her was like the summer b4..like 8months b4!

i just tried to support her as much as i cud. i called her wen i cud, abd tried jus talkint to her and tryin to get her to quit the drugs and drinking. i felt my whole world was falling apart..and had enuff stress..and this was makin it wrse...but i didnt tell her about it. she never knew jus how upset i wud get over her, so i just tried to b strong for her and try n help her out

its ralli difficulat wen u cant there for that person. so u have try that extra bit more, but dont smother him too much with fone calls and emails asking if hes ok all the time, that'll jus piss him off! jus tell him weever he needs ya u'll b there and trry n help him chill out, and jus try and talk to him.

[star*girl]

TALK TO HIM HE NEEDS HELP! If he is a real friend he would listen!

[sk8andRockoN]

Like others said, there's not much you can do. But what I think he really needs right now is a friend. You really need to give him support, and guide him through this as much as you can. Also try to tell them if he keeps hurting himself, he should think about all the others he's hurting, people who love him like you.

[al_Lou<<]

give him all your support and let him know he'snot alone that he has friends that loves him! take him to somewhere where you can get fun and get over this problem, wish u luck hope he can get over this problem soon! :)

[Heather Lovelace]

As you said yourself, Gwen-Rox. There is'nt much you can do aboot it because you live so far apart. As Narrator said, just give him support and just be a good friend.. He will get over it.

[FallingDown]

I know what that's like, when you want to help someone but distance stops that.. and like others have said just let him know your there to talk when he needs it, it's all you can do and I know it's only words and you might feel useless but it can help and mean alot to that person....