Uhg!

[Tiffanie]

aight i need some adivce ...i have liked this guy for 3 years and nothing really ever happen between us, ( i just found out he didnt even know i liked him) but neway he stopped talking to me for about a year and it just killed me and we recently started talking again adn now he is telling me he likes me and that im the only person he could have a real relationship with cause im the only person he has been able to talk to and who actually cares about him ...adn we just spent a weekend together and we talked alot about things and everything, and now that im totally happy to have him back all my friends are bringing me down talking bad about him adn shit, and they should be happy for me, they have always done that to me when it came to him ..and tonight i told him that cause i told him i didnt think this was going to work cause of things i was hearing and i think now he thinks i dont believe a word he says ..and uhg i dont know what to do ..believe him and be happy or listen to my friends and be upset and not have him at all .......

[**Allison~]

I understood nearly all of that except for maybe one or two parts.

Your friends want the best for you right? Well, maybe they want you to see that this guy isn't like perfect for you. He may seem good to you now but maybe not later in life. Your friends probably find out things that you might not look out for because you don't want to hear bad things about this guy. Your friends are there to look out for you and maybe that's what they think they're doing.

Ask this guy the things that are troubling you. Get the truth out from him. If it turns out your friends got their facts mixed up, just remember that they love ya and were just looking out for you.

If you do nothing at all, you're just going to wonder about what could have been.

Good luck Tiff, this guy'll be lucky to have ya if you do go for it. :) :hug:

[Tiffanie]

awww thanx so much Allison ^_^ *hugs* i totally understand what your saying for sure ...and you know what your are right about my friends just caring, but also, they just dont like this guy ..not cause of me but just cause they dont like him ...so i think they should put their feelings behind them for me, cause i think when you love someone for almost 4 years and you finally have your chance with them, you just feel like you need to ignore what everyone else is saying and just do what your heart is telling you, and no matter what my heart just keeps saying that i need him :( aww im getting all sad and emotional lol ..newho thanx again allison that made me feel much better :)

[**Allison~]

Awwww. I so feel for ya, Tiff!

If your heart is making you feel that way towards him, then maybe your friends should accept who you're in love with. Your friends should stick by you, no matter what you do. If you just explain to your friends how you're feeling, then they'd probably step down to make you happy. If you've liked this guy for almost four years, then your friends must know how it feels like because they've probably felt the same way! Your friends should put aside all feelings if he makes you happy :)

Awww, that's okay if you're getting sad and emotional. It's only natural! And don't worry about it. I just hope you feel better :) *huggies* Tell me how it all goes. If you're still feeling upset PM me. I don't mind :)

[Amanda]

You could also do it your way I know that friends what best for you and it's always great them looking out for you. Well maybe you can "test the water" with him meaning hang out more get to know him alot more, see if he is the one for you no matter what the say. It's not like they are going to disown you forever. Your friends will always be there backing you up in the end.

[**Allison~]

I totally agree with ya Amanda about getting Tiff's friends to hang out with him. Maybe they could change how they see him; see what Tiff sees in him.

[Tiffanie]

lol yea thats true, lol one friend dated him before so she doesnt count i guess lol but the others one dont know him the way that i do :) ...newho things are kinda rocky right now cause last night i tried to talk to him but i got the impression that he didnt really wanna talk, so i think im just gonna back off for a bit until he's ready ...cause i was talkin to another friend of mine who has known him since he was lil adn she said she thinks he's real confused right now, cause he really likes me and he is getting mad that people are telling me stupid shit lol ...so im just gonna let him figure out what he wants and when he's ready he'll come i geuss :) ..i'll keep ya's posted lol

[**Allison~]

That's a good idea to let him decide what he wants. But you have to make sure it's also what you want :)

Hehe. Good luck with it all! :)

[Sparkplug]

why don't your friends like him? did he do something to offend them?

[Crystal]

I think that you should tell your friends that you really like him, and that it's not fair to just insult him because of that reason. Maybe you could ask them exactly why they don't like him.

[FallingDown]

^^ Listen to the voice of reason...

[Da Boggsta]

Tiffybabe :)

Friends stay with you longer than relationships *usually* Listen to what they say, but also make them reason with you. Im guessing they dont like the guy since he went out with your friend?

Thats very typical, friends stick together, regardless of the truth! Try to make them understand that you do like this guy *spits* and that u wanna be with him *chokes back tears* if they understand then fine, but if it becomes to a point of u and them argueing, that is time to pull the plug! Friends are more important!

Good luck with ur new fella *crys*

[Tiffanie]

well im still waiting to talk to him again about all this, but i think maybe i'll just stick to giving him time to figure shit out ...he is actually 3 years younger than me adn when we first met that was weird for me but i then realized it didnt matter because i cared about him anyway ..but yea he is younger so he isnt really ready for a relationship, and in reality neither am i cause i have never been in a real one, not one that would count for anything anyway ...and my friends well they still just dont agree with me lol but theres nothing i can do about it now ....im just gonna give this time because theres no reason to rush it :) ...it'll all work out the way its supose to im sure ..the only thing i dont want is to lose him like i did before

[**Allison~]

Let him figure out what he wants, like you said. Then you know where you stand with him. And that's another good thing you said, not to rush into it. If you you're in love then you have all the time on your hands. Is this guy being 3 years younger than you the problem with your friends? If so, then isn't there that term, age ain't nothing but a number.

I hope you won't lose because I can see how much you care for him. Still keep us posted :) :hug:

[avrilrocks007]

awww well it soundsl ike u already have the answers that you want!!!!!!!!!!! so all i can say is good luck and i wish u2 the bestest!

[Death in a Bottle]

That's not wishing much. Considering... Bestest doesn't exist

[Da Boggsta]

^ you are a cunt at times!

tiff, good luck babe, but keep me informed, PM :)

[Tiffanie]

well ...things are really twisted around now lol ..and i dont wanna explain, but i wanna let ya all know that its all good ^_^ everything worked out for the best