How Would You Deal With It

[Dark Angel of Time]

Let's say that you and your father are really close to each other, he supprted you 100% and he supported the rest of your family. He loves your mother sooo much that he will surprise her with a dinner. Then your dad starts to drink and he starts to get sexual with you meaning, he trys to kiss you and get it with you, you finally after 3 months to stop. He finallly did, and a few years later you tell your mother how you feel and she goes crazy on you, saying that you're lying, about it, and your father says the truth to your mother and nowadays, she refuses to go anywhere with you alone (like bonding, going to the store)We'll to be honest, that did happen to me, can anyone help me please???????? :unsure: I'm almost 18, and my mother keeps blaming it on me everytime she thinks about it. I can't go live at someone's house cause I don't have any girlfriends. During Easter, I ran away from home and my mom got really upset. Now she gets along with my older sister, and for some reason, whenever I want to talk to her about something, she gets disgusted, I don't know why. Please help me????? Please

[DearestHelpless]

How in the hell are we supposed to help you? I think the answer would be logical...common sense...think about it.

[punkin_monkey]

Oh shush ^.

Well, this is an interesting situation and believe it or not I know someone who kind of had the same situation except it was with a boyfriend. She told her mom he beat her and her mom got angry and asked her why she would lie about something like that.

Hmmm...okay. Your mom really needs a slap. If she doesn't believe something that seriuous...she needs help. Especially if you two were close. My mom would definitely take my word over anyone elses.

Sit her down one day, the two of you alone. Make her, make it so she can't get out of it. Tell her something that would totally get her attention then tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her how concerned you are and how it scared the piss out of you. She needs to know.

And in the meantime, if your dad is still around. Kick him in the darkness before he tries anything else.

[Dark Angel of Time]

How in the hell are we supposed to help you?Awwww... that's mean to say after all I've been through, you don't even know.

[DearestHelpless]

And you see....that solution might have been obvious if she just would've thought about it.

[Dark Angel of Time]

if your dad is still around. Kick him in the darkness before he tries anything else.

He doesn't do it, no more, he respects me now, and stopped drinking now, but my mom hasn't, it's just my mom avoids my personal problems now, like she's afraid to find out more about me or something.

[DearestHelpless]

Originally posted by Dark Angel of Time@May 7 2004, 07:27 PM
Awwww... that's mean to say after all I've been through, you don't even know.
Don't even try to get my sympathy.

[FallingDown]

I don't think there's any point her trying... but I heart you Lauren!

[DearestHelpless]

lol Aww, well I heart you too, Brandon!!

[Dark Angel of Time]

Don't even try to get my sympathy.

Probably your so selfish can you imagine being in a situation like this, it hurts, so much that it makes you want to cry out loud.

[DearestHelpless]

I'm not selfish, I'm just not up for showing sympathy for someone who seeks it far too often. And don't tell me I can't imagine what a situation like that is like. You're right, I've never had that happen to me, but that doesn't mean I've never been hurt. You're an attention seeker and that annoys me. Look, if that happened to you in the past, then hey, I'm sorry, but f*cking move on already. What's done is done. You can't change it. It's a process we all have to learn...just move on.

[FallingDown]

Uh huh.. Instead of wasting time here going on about it.. why not try and do something about it.. what's sitting on your butt gonna do?... we can't do anything.. except tell you the things you already know..

[Sydney Starlet]

I agree with everything punkin_monkey said. It's definitely best for you to talk to your mother, because if you don't things might stay this way forever. If she still doesn't listen, then it's her loss and she's a total idiot.

[Dark Angel of Time]

What I was going to to is talk to and adult about it, at school, it's a principal, I'm really close to her, so I'll talk to her on Monday. :blink: :unsure:

[PunkyMalone]

....and so you had to ask us about it because...?

Oh, yeah, attention.

[Sydney Starlet]

Don't tell your principal! For gods sake. If you were to tell your principal, that really would be looking for attention. What's it going to achieve anyway? Talk. To. Your. Mum.

[Dark Angel of Time]

Yeah your right about that, I should've thought about it clearly. It's not for attention honestly, I really need help, cause everyone I know won't understand.

[Heather Lovelace]

Originally posted by FallingDown@May 7 2004, 10:52 PM
I don't think there's any point her trying... but I heart you Lauren!
Go away Brand! Her ass is mine :o

[FallingDown]

Originally posted by DearestHelpless@May 7 2004, 06:23 PM
lol Aww, well I heart you too, Brandon!!
^^

Well she hearts me too Heather. :P but you can still haver her ass...

[punkin_monkey]

Well, let me let you all in on a little secret okay?

There ARE some of us on here who know that otheres are attnention seakers....but that doesn't mean a thing. You still should try to help someone when they are asking for it! I think it's mighty obnoxious to come on here and blast her with your little opinions. So what if she does...none of us know her. Only through this message board.

So maybe, if you don't want to give her help. Leave your opinions to yourself. You're always the type to say, "If you don't like this thread, don't come in here". Take your own advice for once.

[Sydney Starlet]

^I may disagree with a lot of things you say, but I support that 100%. There's no need for us to be awful to her... for all we know, this is a big problem for her. It wouldn't hurt to offer a bit of advice even if it is obvious.

[Dark Angel of Time]

Thank you that's very sweet, I 'm really nice in person and i don't like to be mean to people, cause they did that to me for years and I know how it feels.

[punkin_monkey]

Don't you worry about them. They'll choke on their foot a few times in life I can tell.

I hope your mom gets her head out of the clouds and sees how much you really need her help. I'll be thinking about you. :)

[Dark Angel of Time]

Thank you, my mom thinks that I'm selfish now, since I told her the truth. :(

[rjz]

You are not selfish. You just have a lot of stuff to deal with. Good luck.

[Heather Lovelace]

Originally posted by FallingDown@May 7 2004, 10:52 PM
Well she hearts me too Heather. :P but you can still haver her ass...

Laurens mine! *poke* She's just saying it because you said it first.. Neh :P

[mattylover]

k i am going thore sorta the same thing my mom want blean in me or any thing i say t ome she hate me wich iam so fine with she all ways yelling and shit any way i would just leave if u hvae no freind get a job drup out i know it sound rally really bad ida but i would any i just 13 y would u lison to me

[freak01]

^ I can't understand a word you just said.

[Lamer Than Lame]

Stop Underage Drinking!

[Rejected Dreams]

First of all, Why are you bringing things up know? Why after a few years? Thats something I cant understand. Anyway, I think that is not something normal, I mean that happened and you let it past?. I dont understand that really.

And I think this is kinda funny because some girls are giving her some advices, and other two guys are fighting for someone's ass?

Well I'll better shut up now.

[Nirvana]

I dont get it....

[~Johno~]

Well why dont you speak to your dad about it... he knows the truth.

[Dark Angel of Time]

I talked to him about it about a few weeks ago and he said that he'll just stay away from me, and if he does anything that I'm going to file charges.